When Nurturing Feels Joyful Again

Real Life Chaos & Connection

A few weekends ago I was watching my nephew, and something inside me shifted. As I poured into him — playing, tending, being fully present — I realized how natural this part of me is. I love showing up for my people. I love being the nurturer in my village. And I’m good at it.

But in that moment of clarity, something deeper landed.

In Gene Keys, my Sphere of Purpose starts with this:

Yes. And also… when that purpose is filtered through the shadow, it becomes performance.

Giving to be seen.

Giving to prove.

Giving while empty.

That’s been me.

But that weekend, I saw how it gets to be different.

When I ask for help

When I take time for myself — not because I earned it, but because I’m worthy of it

When I fill myself up first, nurturing becomes sacred. Overflowing. Clean.

This wasn’t just a good weekend. It was a clarifying one. I’m not just doing okay — I’m on my way from surviving to thriving.

Charting a Path to Clarity

We are often so busy pouring out that we forget we’re allowed to fill up. Your true purpose is to be of service — but not at the cost of your soul. This week, reflect on how your service shows up: is it rooted in proving or in presence?

Sacred Space for Self-Reflection

Where in your life are you giving from depletion instead of overflow? What’s one small way you can pour into yourself this week — no guilt, just grace?

Sharing the Realness

A dear friend I hadn’t connected with in a while recently posted about struggling. I reached out — not with advice or a solution, just an offer to talk. We spoke for an hour about life, motherhood, and our own journeys. And it reminded me: we don’t always need to fix. Sometimes presence is the most generous gift we can give.

Resources & Recommendations

3 Things I’m Learning

• True purpose is mirrored through relationships, not accomplishments.

• Rest isn’t selfish — it’s strategic.

• When I nurture myself first, I give with joy instead of obligation.

2 Things I’m Obsessed With

• The Sphere of Purpose in Gene Keys — deep, truth-telling insight into why we give.

• Taking intentional time to rest without explaining it to anyone.

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PS – Real Talk

You don’t have to earn rest. You don’t have to prove you’re okay. You already are — and you’re getting clearer every day.

✨ Reminder: You’re doing better than you think, and you deserve a life that feels good, even in the mess. Keep charting your own path, one day at a time. 💫

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