Single Mom Friendship Struggles:

Real Life Chaos & Connection

A friend I met a long time ago at a retreat recently posted that she was struggling. I had nothing to offer her but a phone call. We ended up talking for an hour about our journeys, our Beans, and ourselves — and it felt so necessary.

In female friendships, when the people aren’t your people, it can feel really one-sided. And when your lives look very different — single vs. partnered, spiritual vs. not — it can create distance. But, as always, things happen in perfect timing. I was learning about the Sphere of Attraction in my Gene Keys profile and realizing how often I see my relationships through the shadow lens of fear, guilt, or inadequacy. That call reminded me I’m doing okay — not perfect, but okay.

It also helped me soften around something I’ve been holding: my Big Bean being left out by two school friends. For a moment, I let the shadow take over — wondering if I had offended the other moms. But now I keep reminding myself: not everyone is for us. And that’s okay.

But since you’re here, I guess you are. 😉

Charting a Path to Clarity

When we see relationships through the shadow of “not enough,” we tend to either overperform or withdraw. But when we allow ourselves to stay soft — even in uncomfortable spaces — we can transform what feels like rejection into redirection.

According to the Gene Keys, your Sphere of Attraction shows you the energetic patterns that shape how you relate to others. When you observe it with compassion, not criticism, you start attracting aligned relationships instead of chasing ones that never quite click.

Sacred Space for Self-Reflection

Where in your life are you holding back because you’re afraid you’re not someone’s “type of person”? What would happen if you let go of needing to fit in?

Sharing the Realness

This week, a powerful discussion surfaced: Should we guide our kids away from peers who may not be well-parented? One perspective was clear: protect your child. Another offered compassion: maybe we’re called to be the example adult.

That reminded me of this quote by Josh Shipp:

I often say (and mostly believe - heh) that I have few opinions. But this one I had an immediate response and opinion. Maybe its the the teacher in me or my deep rooted belief in the Village, either way, I believe children need the adults in their lives to help them see there could be another way.

Let’s be the adults who choose empathy, who see the bigger picture, and who create space for the kids who need us most. We aren't the only ones who need a village.

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3 Things I’m Learning

• People’s distance isn’t always rejection — sometimes it’s redirection.

• Kids are incredibly resilient — sometimes more than we are.

• It’s okay to not be for everyone… and to keep your heart open anyway.

2 Things I’m Obsessed With

• The Sphere of Attraction in Gene Keys — helping me see my patterns in love and friendship.

• Long voice notes or Marco Polos with soul-friends — because connection doesn’t have to be complicated.

1 Offer I’m Excited About The Sacred Hour Challenge is almost here — a gentle 5-day experience to help you stop numbing out after work and start reconnecting with your Beans in meaningful, manageable ways. One book. One prompt. One intentional hour a day. Stay tuned — you’ll be the first to know when it drops.

PS – Real Talk

If you’ve ever felt like the odd one out, the mom who doesn’t quite belong, the friend who tries a little too hard — I see you. You’re not broken. You’re just sensitive. And that sensitivity? It’s your gift. 🫶🏾

✨ Reminder: You’re doing better than you think, and you deserve a life that feels good, even in the mess. Keep charting your own path, one day at a time. 💫

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